Ahhh... now I get it

Not long ago I was complaining to a friend about a relative of mine that just never seems to appreciate anything.  Whether it was clothes, food or rides, it all just seemed to be expected, and would pass without so much as a thank you.  My friend pointed out that since this relative really didn't have much, maybe she was just tired of saying thank you.  At that time I really couldn't comprehend it.... today though it clicked.

For parents that have children with special needs, they are tired and exhausted every day .  There is always something to do, fix or make.  For mothers out there, think of having an infant, those exhausting nights, the frustration; or think of the toddler years, the power struggle the need for independence without the ability. Now think of this for the rest of your life.  This is what parents with special needs children face every day.  No, they are not looking for your pity, but they are tired of asking for help!

• Don't ask them what is wrong when they are having a bad day, if they explain it they relive their guilt for feeling it. 

• Don't ask what you can do, just jump on in and do it.! 
• Bring a casserole, give their dog a bath, mow their lawn or simply send a note to say hi..

Because if they have to ask for help, its just one more thing on their to do list.